That’s okay! Here is what is going to happen in project. As you may have understood that this is a video project where females from the age of 13 and above will be asked questions on aspirations and self-worth. So, hence onwards I am just going to call adult women and girls, as girls.
Now, you may say, ‘Oh, what are you talking about? We ask our girls “What do they want to become?” How is this different from that?’
It is different, when we ask a 10 year old, what you want to become, she will answer on the basis of what she has seen her other elder girls do around her and what is actually accepted by the men. Till this age she is made sure of her sex, her gender as fit as the parents and society sees it to be. She is also aware of her parent’s thinking and reaction towards many things. This is also the age where she is looking after appreciation her parents, her teachers and her friends provide. She is not about her own thinking at this age! She thinks, ‘Okay, now that I have to answer this question and also be adored for it, let me answer something for which I am adored.’ So, she may answer, a teacher, a doctor, or at most I don’t know.So, the answer to ‘what do you want to become’ depends rather on reaction and observation she makes of what her sex is allowed or not allowed to do, what her sex is appreciated of, what her sex’s elder is doing and is appreciated of.
She is not given or rather is not aware of a option of knowing that there is not a right answer to this.
That is when aspirations and self-worth come into picture and also patience come into picture. She might be good in biology and is expected to go medical but what she likes is make-up, or a she might be good at make-up and is expected to work in beauty parlour, but she really wants give a shot at medical CET, but cant due to less marks in biology! Both, of them aspire to do something but do not because they think that their self-worth and their worth in other people’s eyes is going to be hampered. They going to get ridiculed to what they want to do, they are going to be laughed at.
Well, according to me, if you want to something, you must be able to do it at any age, even a 10 year old should have that freedom and even a 50 year old should have that freedom. They should face any ridicule from anyone because of their age and they should not be expected to do something because stereotypical demands of the society.
How can we achieve this? First step, according to me, is asking them a question, letting them know that there is no right or wrong answer. Whatever they feel is correct and waiting patiently for their answers.
This is what “I Am Worth It” is going to do.
Patience is my biggest, strongest strength. I can wait patiently for their answer.
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